According to the poet Audre Lourde: "You are the person you are looking for".
If so, why is it so hard to accept this truth and be completely happy?
I do not know the exact answer, but I may venture to say that this happens because we did not learn this lesson during the school years (which I consider a pity), because I believe that if there was a subject called Emotional Intelligence to study, many of our internal problems would be solved in childhood and we would become happier and more focused adults.
It turns out that the lesson is taught in an arbitrary way, through the lived experiences.Many learn from them and many do not.
But, I believe it is very bad to go through life believing that one can only be happy with someone on our side. This is a crime against the other person. We can not deliver this burden to the other load. He is inhumane with the other and with us.
To help you feel good about who you are and be completely happy, without having to depend on other people, I have separated some attitudes to be reflected and applied:
1. Feel good about yourself
Do you enjoy your company when you are alone or are you distressed for not having someone to talk to? Evaluate yourself and respond honestly. One tip: you are and always will be your best friend.
2. Love each other
Do you have self-esteem or do you often forget about yourself to give your love to others?Spend time with yourself to listen and to embrace. The success of relationships lies in the way you care. People like and want to be close to people who love themselves.
3. Accept yourself as you are
We all have defects and recognizing this is the first step in correcting what can be corrected and accepting what has no way to be repaired.
4.Respect yourself
You are a unique and special being, so accept nothing less than the best of this life and the people around you.
5.Valorize yourself
You are a human being created in the image and likeness of God, so it is very valuable.Identify what is good for you in a relationship, set specifications, and just let yourself into your home if they all conform to what you have determined.
6. Forgive yourself
We all make mistakes and that is not why you have to spend your life blaming yourself for something that went wrong or did not work out.
Of course mistakes will happen, but with these attitudes the chances are minimized and you will be paying close attention to identify any irregularities and return the defective product.
People must come into our lives to add up and never to subtract. Both should have the same or similar interests. If this is not aligned, the chances of the relationship going wrong are high.
So, know exactly what you are looking for and where to look.
Take responsibility for yourself and your life and be happy, and when you are ready, receive the best, with great gratitude!
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